A girlfriend isn’t Dumbo’s magic feather; she’s a person, same as you are.
Asking her to take responsibility for your self-improvement regimen is an unfair imposition on her.
Romantic relationships are special, don’t get me wrong, but so are for you, instead of a loneliness heatsink. Another common issue that comes up with a lot of guys is the idea that a girlfriend is a magical being who will change your life for the better.
They make you smarter, stronger, a better dresser and someone who’ll inspire you to be your best self.
If you legitimately want to make lifestyle changes, then you have to be your own motivating force.
If you’re going to do things differently, then you need to do it whether you’re single or not.
Now, having just said all that: Yeah, I know: if having a girlfriend won’t change you, then the fuck is this horse shit?
Instead, they’ve chosen not to, finding many very good reasons why they couldn’t possibly do it.
The club-going party girl isn’t going to have that much in common with the homebody who enjoys staying home watching .
The driven executive is going to get exhausted dealing with the over-developed man-child.
Trying to run your life is difficult enough; trying to manage somebody else’s on top of your own can be a goddamn nightmare.
But even if you find that rare combination of teacher/nurturer who lives for expanding your mind while shrinking your anxieties, there’s the fact that to change. The primary reason why guys don’t do all those things they fantasize their 90s-era Winona Ryder teaching them to do is that, frankly, they don’t really want to do them in the first place.