But our understanding of how the fear of commitment for some people can be paralyzing has increased.
And while you won’t find “commitment phobia” in any diagnostic manual, it is a very real experience of anxiety and fear.
For most people, relationships are fairly easy things.
They come as naturally to life as breathing or making a meal. In fact, they present such a challenge to the individual, that a person can be said to have relationship anxiety, a fear of relationships, or suffer from “.”Commitment issues in relationships are nothing new.
Counseling may also be appropriate for anyone who’s gone through a round of serious relationships, only to have them end when the person couldn’t take the relationship to the next step.
People with a commitment phobia long and want a long-term connection with another person, but their overwhelming anxiety prevents them from staying in any relationship for too long.
If pressed for a commitment, they are far more likely to leave the relationship than to make the commitment.
Once they “get” the person, it becomes less interesting for them. They are consumed with picking out the negative traits in the other person in a meticulous fashion.
I am not saying people should ignore negative traits or stay in relationships they’re not happy with, but with the commitment-phobic person, this endeavour of seeking out negative traits in the other person is particularly acute and almost an obsessive process.