There was obviously chemistry, but I was a little uncomfortable at first about him being married, which continued into our relationship.
He assured me that his wife was cool with it and that they had a 'don’t ask don’t tell' relationship.
He drank entirely too much and when that happened, all he did was pick a fight.
He tried to talk me into getting plastic surgery and would say I was 'unhinged' when I got too upset.
I think these women, myself included, truly believe that they can make this work without anyone getting hurt and they truly do care not only for the husband but also his family. At work, he gave me praise on my performances, which made me feel validated in my role and made me feel more competent. Our relationship went from mentor to friend to lover.
It’s very rarely ill-intentioned." "I met this guy on a work trip about three years ago. It was after our first kiss he told me that he was married. It was like, Then he started explaining how she was verbally abusive and I felt bad for him. There were times when I felt like it was wrong and a line was crossed.
Situations are a lot more nuanced than they appear to be.
Sure, some people in the world don’t have the best intentions, but I do believe they are few and far between. He's also 10 years older than me, which made me look up to him.
It was nice that there wasn’t that pressure of being in a fully committed relationship, and that allowed us to let loose sexually.
I realized that his ego was bruised when I told him I didn't want to be with him, so he made up with me just to break up, so he could have the last word.
After we broke up, he tried to repair things with his wife, and that didn't work, and I think he realized very quickly that no sane woman would deal with his enormous ego for how little he gives in return.
"I’m a former marketing communications manager turned performer and entertainer. Married' about a year and a half ago when my friend asked me to play keyboard in his new band, and the man was the bassist.
I was drawn to him because he was super funny, cool, stylish, sweet, generous, kind, caring, creative, and artistic, not to mention quirky and adventurous.