From trying to figure out where to meet nice guys to navigating a budding romance, dating can often feel like too much to handle on your own.So we asked some smart and savvy women to give us their takes on modern dating.When sending yourself out into the world—whether it’s to an event, a cooking class, a bar or a new office—don’t go into it with the sole purpose of meeting a single guy.Not because you won’t, but because if you As someone who currently lives this reality every day, I’ve benefited a lot from adjusting my definition of being “out there” and “trying.” I read a great book earlier this year called Meeting Your Half-Orange.As a high school teacher and overall nerd, I have the opportunity to go to a couple of work-related conferences each year, and I usually don’t go with a group. I wouldn’t suggest going to a wedding with the hope of meeting a man. I’ve never dated a guy I met while doing any of those activities—and I don’t think that’s a bad thing!Being alone at events like this gives me a really good excuse to introduce myself to that cute guy I eyed during the break without feeling like a weirdo. But if, like me, weddings are an event you enjoy, then go! And who knows, you may walk away with a new date just by being yourself and having a good time. I joined a non-profit volunteer group of young professionals. (I never feel my cutest when I’m wearing five layers of ski gear anyway.)That being said, I truly believe that being "out there" is all about parties.Then later that night I saw him again on my way home.
Naturally he paid special attention to me and ended up asking me for my number.I discovered that I actually I’m thankful that I gave hiking a try, not only because it became one of my favorite forms of exercise and beauty-seeking, but also because it was the perfect first date activity to suggest to my now-boyfriend when we met.I had no idea that he loved hiking but later found out that he was pleasantly surprised that it was my first suggestion.There’s safety in numbers, and if you go to a party or a club with a girlfriend, you know that even if the guys end up being lame, at least you can laugh about it with someone later.In my experience, however, there are times and places when your chances of meeting a dateable guy increases when you go it alone.