Thus making an introduction easier and far less intimidating.
If rejection happens it’s not as personal or awkward (usually).
I’ve read your profile, and I think you sound nice…” …is way less engaging than this: “What!! Especially online, when women maybe a little more on-guard, opening with a comment on their physical appearance runs the risk of seeming shallow and off-putting.
Besides — if they really are that pretty they’re probably hearing that from every unoriginal guy on the site, and it Sometimes, misguided men will send out first messages that read like autobiographies.
This will help spark an idea about where to take the message.
Bonus: you’ll find out if you truly want to message this person or if they’re just drawing you in with their physical appearance.
There was a time I even created a blog to showcase some of the best of the worst because I felt the world should share in the horror with me.It says “Hey, I might be sort of interested in you, but I’m going to let you do all the legwork.” Don’t give her a nudge and expect her to then message you, because she probably won’t.This isn’t a cover letter for a job application; there’s really no need to be formal.Good luck out there, and may the words be with you![image: via Joi Ito on flickr] Ready for conscious, like-minded individuals you really want to meet?